A child’s first period, also known as menarche, is an important milestone in puberty. For many children, it can bring a mix of emotions, including curiosity, excitement, confusion, embarrassment or anxiety. How parents and caregivers respond can shape a child’s confidence and attitude towards menstruation for years to come.
Preparing children before their first period helps them understand that menstruation is a normal and healthy part of growing up. It also reduces fear, builds confidence and helps them manage their periods safely and with dignity.
Whether you are a parent, grandparent, guardian, foster parent, teacher or caregiver, your support plays an important role in helping a child navigate this new stage of life.
Why Preparation Matters
Many children begin menstruating without knowing what is happening to their bodies. This can be frightening if they have never been told about periods.
Preparing children before their first period helps them:
• understand that menstruation is normal;
• feel less anxious if their period starts unexpectedly;
• know how to manage menstrual bleeding safely;
• build confidence and independence;
• understand when to seek help; and
• develop positive attitudes towards their bodies.Preparation should begin before menstruation starts.
When Should You Start Talking About Periods?
There is no perfect age, but it is best to begin age-appropriate conversations before puberty.
Many children begin puberty between the ages of 8 and 13 years, although this varies from person to person.
Instead of having one “big talk”, look for opportunities to have short, honest conversations over time. This allows children to ask questions as they grow and understand more about their changing bodies.
Recognising the Signs of Puberty
Every child develops at their own pace.
Signs that puberty may be beginning include:
• breast development;
• growth spurts;
• body hair under the arms and around the genital area;
• increased sweating and body odour;
• oily skin or acne; and
• changes in emotions and mood.The first period usually begins about two to three years after breast development starts, although this varies.
How to Explain Menstruation
Use simple, honest and age appropriate language.
You might explain that:
“Every month, the uterus prepares for a possible pregnancy. When pregnancy does not occur, the lining of the uterus leaves the body as blood through the vagina. This is called a period. It is a normal and healthy part of growing up.”
Avoid using words that suggest menstruation is dirty, shameful or something to hide.
Encourage questions and answer them honestly.
If you do not know the answer, look for reliable information together.
Preparing Before the First Period
Helping a child prepare before their first period can make the experience much less stressful.
You can prepare by:
• talking openly about menstruation;
• explaining what menstrual blood looks like;
• discussing where periods come from;
• showing different menstrual products;
• explaining how to use and dispose of products safely;
• discussing normal menstrual symptoms such as mild cramps;
• reassuring them that everyone experiences periods differently; and
• letting them know they can always ask for help.Creating a First Period Kit
A small period kit can help children feel prepared wherever they are.
A first period kit may include:
• disposable or reusable menstrual pads;
• a spare pair of underwear;
• wet wipes (if needed);
• a small plastic or reusable bag for carrying used underwear if necessary;
• tissues;
• pain relief medicine if recommended by a healthcare professional; and
• a small calendar or phone app for tracking periods once they begin.Keeping a kit in a school bag can provide reassurance if a period starts unexpectedly.
Teaching Good Menstrual Hygiene
Children should learn how to manage their periods safely.
Teach them to:
• wash their hands before and after changing menstrual products;
• change menstrual products regularly according to the manufacturer’s instructions or recommended hygiene practices;
• wash the genital area with clean water during bathing;
• wear clean underwear;
• dispose of used products safely or clean reusable products according to the manufacturer’s instructions; and
• seek help if they have concerns.Explain that menstruation does not make someone “dirty.”
Choosing the Right Menstrual Product
There is no single product that is best for everyone.
Options include:
• disposable menstrual pads;
• reusable menstrual pads;
• period underwear;
• tampons;
• menstrual cups; and
• menstrual discs.For many children, menstrual pads are often the easiest product to start with because they are simple to use.
As children grow older, they may choose other menstrual products based on their preferences and lifestyle.
Respect their choice and provide guidance on how to use products safely.
Supporting Emotional Wellbeing
Children may experience different emotions when their first period begins.
Some may feel:
• happy;
• proud;
• nervous;
• embarrassed;
• confused;
• worried; or
• frightened.Listen without judgement.
- Avoid laughing at their concerns or dismissing their feelings.
- Reassure them that menstruation is a normal part of growing up and that you are there to support them.
Helping a Child at School
Talk with your child about what to do if their period starts while they are at school.
Encourage them to:
• keep a period kit in their school bag;
• know where the toilets are;
• identify a trusted teacher or school nurse if available;
• ask for help if they need menstrual products; and
• avoid feeling embarrassed about seeking support.Schools should provide safe, supportive environments where learners can manage menstruation with dignity.
Supporting Children with Disabilities
Children with disabilities should receive menstrual health education that is appropriate for their age, abilities and communication needs.
Support may include:
• using simple language;
• visual aids or pictures;
• Braille or audio resources where appropriate;
• sign language where needed;
• practising menstrual hygiene routines before the first period; and
• encouraging independence whenever possible.Every child deserves accurate information and respectful support.
Supporting Transgender and Gender-Diverse Children
Not everyone who menstruates identifies as a girl or woman. Some transgender boys and non-binary people may also experience menstruation.
Parents and caregivers should provide support that respects the child’s identity, preferences and dignity while ensuring they have access to accurate information and appropriate menstrual products.
Using respectful language and listening without judgement can help children feel safe and supported.
When Should You Seek Medical Advice?
Consult a healthcare professional if your child:
• starts menstruating before the age of 8 years;
• has not started menstruating by around age 15 years or within about three years of breast development beginning;
• experiences very heavy menstrual bleeding;
• has severe menstrual pain that interferes with daily activities;
• has periods lasting longer than about seven days on a regular basis;
• experiences persistent dizziness or fainting during periods; or
• has any other menstrual symptoms that concern you.Common Mistakes to Avoid
Parents and caregivers should avoid:
• waiting until after the first period to discuss menstruation;
• making children feel embarrassed about periods;
• using myths or inaccurate information;
• assuming every child’s experience will be the same;
• forcing a child to use a menstrual product they are uncomfortable with; and
• ignoring concerns about severe pain or heavy bleeding.Myths and Facts
Myth: Talking about periods too early encourages children to grow up faster.
Fact: Age-appropriate menstrual health education helps children feel prepared and confident. It does not make puberty happen earlier.
Myth: A child’s first period will always be exactly like their mother’s.
Fact: Every person’s menstrual cycle is different. The age at which periods begin, the amount of bleeding and menstrual symptoms can vary.
Myth: Children should be embarrassed to ask questions about periods.
Fact: Encouraging questions helps children learn accurate information and feel supported.
Myth: Periods always begin at the same age.
Fact: Most children begin menstruating between the ages of 10 and 15 years, but healthy variation exists.
Frequently Asked Questions
- What if my child starts their period unexpectedly?
Stay calm, reassure them that this is normal, help them clean up, provide a menstrual product and explain what is happening. Avoid making them feel embarrassed or frightened.
- What menstrual product should my child start with?
Many children find menstrual pads easiest to use when they first begin menstruating. As they grow older, they may choose other menstrual products based on their preferences and needs.
- Should boys learn about periods too?
Yes. Teaching boys about menstruation helps reduce stigma, encourages respect and enables them to support friends, classmates and family members.
- What if my child is too embarrassed to talk?
Be patient and keep communication open. Some children may prefer asking questions over time rather than having one long conversation. Let them know they can always come to you or another trusted adult for support.
Key Messages
• Preparing children before their first period helps reduce fear and build confidence.
• Honest, age-appropriate conversations should begin before menstruation starts.
• Every child’s experience of menstruation is different and should be respected.
• Parents, caregivers, teachers and healthcare professionals all play an important role in supporting children.
• Menstruation is a normal and healthy part of growing up and should never be a source of shame.Related Articles
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